Going Beyond Anxious & Avoidant:
A Four-Part Workshop Series for Couples
If this sounds like you and your partner, you're in the right place.
•You know one of you tends to be anxiously attached and the other more avoidant, but naming it hasn’t really changed the pattern.
• One of you wants to talk things through right away while the other shuts down, goes quiet, or needs space. And the more one pushes, the more the other pulls away.
• Small disagreements quickly escalate into something much bigger than either of you intended.
• In the moment one or both of you — raising your voice, getting defensive, or shutting down — and it’s hard to slow things down.
• You love each other and want to build a stronger foundation before marriage or big life changes.
This series helps couples understand what’s really happening beneath stress and conflict—how attachment patterns, nervous system responses, and coping strategies shape the way you relate to each other.
Together, you’ll learn how to move beyond reactive cycles like one partner pushing while the other pulls away, conversations escalating while the other shuts down, getting stuck explaining or defending instead of feeling heard, or trying to fix things while the other just needs support—and develop practical, short- and long-term ways to support safety, trust, and connection in your relationship.
Workshop Dates + Themes:
Each session builds on the last, so both partners are expected to attend all four workshops.
If you have any potential scheduling conflicts, please flag them early and we’ll see what’s possible.
Workshop 1:
Oops, My Partner is a Nervous System
(14 March, 3.30-5.30PM)
Learn how stress moves through the body and shows up in your life and relationship—why one of you may escalate while the other pulls away, how these patterns developed, and what your nervous system is trying to protect in the moment. This session builds awareness of your own responses and offers a shared language to help you talk about them with more clarity, compassion, and choice.
Workshop 2:
The Science Behind Attachment Style
(28 March, 3.30-5.30PM)
Move beyond pop psychology and explore your attachment style in a meaningful, grounded way. In this session, you’ll uncover the core fears and underlying needs that shape how you experience love—and how these patterns show up in your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours within your relationship. Together, we’ll debunk common myths around anxious and avoidant attachment, and explore how you are more than just your attachment triggers.
Workshop 3:
Safety for Me, but Danger for Us?
(11 April, 3.30-5.30PM)
With the attachment basics gained from the previous workshop, dive deeper into understanding why you might repeatedly fall into the same pattern of responses in conflict. This session is all about you: understanding your core fears, and how you can communicate your needs in a way that is safe and regulated.
Workshop 4:
Bringing Safety into Partnership
(25 April, 3.30-5.30PM)
Returning our attention from "I" to "we", learn how security can be built interdependently as a couple. This session covers attachment-based strategies that are meant to support your partner in downregulating during immediate conflict, and in cultivating security in the long-term. You will leave with concrete strategies that will not only enhance your sense of self, but a sense of safety and security in your partnership.
